Tony

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My brother in law Tony helping the poor

Saturday, August 13, 2011

What is going on in this country? A back to school message.....

What in the world is going on in this country?  A few days ago my son Nick and I were sitting in the family room when a commercial came on promoting a new reality TV show.  The scenes were atrocious!  It was a show which exposes moms who try to live vicariously through their young daughters.  They apparently sign them up for "exclusive" dance lessons or something and then fight with the other moms who think their daughters are better.  Name calling, fist fights, everything in front of their young children.  After watching the hard-to-take snippet  Nick and I looked at each other and he said, "this is what's wrong with our country."  


Who can argue with that?  Other TV shows like "Jerseylicious, Real Housewives, and Toddlers and Tiaras, portraying women like we are animals who can't think or act rationally.  I believe these kinds of shows are setting women back 100 years.  Gloria Steinem is probably drinking herself into a stooper as I type out these words.  Come on ladies, you're killing me!  


What is becoming increasingly more unbearable is how to explain this to my "young men."  My youngest son John broke up with his girlfriend this past week because she was "cheating" on him.  Whatever that means to 15 year olds.  But the point is, John could not believe what low self-esteem this young girl has that she thinks she has to keep finding other boys to feel good about herself.  The truth is, how can you blame her?  Given what we (and when I say we I mean all women) are being portrayed as in the media it is super degrading.  


Listen ladies, we are strong, beautiful, confident, intelligent, and worth EVERY man's respect.  I promise, I am trying the best I can to raise men who will ALWAYS treat you with respect.  Not every parent pushes their kids to go beyond media expectations, but I do!  I want you young girls to know that there are some good boys out there who want to marry good girls.  They want a girl who will eventually be a good mother to their children and you're not going to get there by acting like a savage.  Times have changed but what has really changed about them?  Are we not still flesh and blood AND body and soul?  Yes we are!  The make up of a woman has not changed.  What's changed is how we are asked to see ourselves.  If media thinks we act like animals then of course we might start acting like animals.  But I am here to tell you that we are NOT animals.  We are good and loving people just confused on how to act good and loving, mostly because we never see ourselves behave that way on television, or in movies, or in politics. Our morality is always challenged.


Nick was 100% right, that IS what is wrong with our country.  Let's show these people that we are more than the sum of our individual parts.  We are not just flesh and blood, but body and soul as well.  I hope this simple letter can convert your hearts more than an episode of Real Housewives.  Have respect for yourself and ultimately for everyone else and maybe, just maybe, the next generation will show my generation we were wrong!  


This message is for all the young men and women who are heading back to school in the next few weeks.  


Keep your dignity and you will keep your self-worth!